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Awkward Sex Series Part Three: Asexuals get no love

One thing that does not get the recognition that it deserves is the freedom to be asexual. Many times this orientation gets lumped in to the LBGTQ community when it is really unrelated. Asexuality is when a person is not aroused by anything. Some people who choose to abstain are of this orientation, many of them have tried heterosexual and homosexual acts, but they don’t get anything out of it. they feel more comfortably after opting out of the sex game altogether rather than trying to force themselves into one orientation or another. some of the ones who say that Abstaining is easy may very well be of this orientation.

Stories of people who lose their desire to have sex, are filled with friends trying to set them up on dates and do things to “fix” them, as well as people assuming that they are homosexual. This shows that there may be some hostility towards those who do not fit in with society’s norm that we are all “sexually attracted to something.”  there are cases of people who are married and decide that they no longer want to have sex with their spouse. The “normal” thing to think is that the spouse who doesn’t desire sexual activity is evidently getting their sexual supply elsewhere, but who is to say that they weren’t sexually active based on societal or relational pressures.

One statistic that stood out to me is that is is reported that one percent or the population is asexual. Man times I have seen that same statistic for the homosexual population. This leads me to wonder how many homosexuals are Asexuals who were encouraged to believe that they had to be attracted to someone.

Til God hits the reset button

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Awkward Sex Series Part Two: Effects of Celibacy

In the last post, I mentioned that there were not as many resources out there that talk about why abstaining from sex would be beneficial. but nonetheless they exist.

These include:

A lower likely hood of physical abuse, drug use, and excessive drinking and a higher likelihood of better mental health*. People who abstain also had a Lowered risk and instance of STIs, and lower risk of pregnancy (meaning lower risk of abortion, lower risk of body changes and body image issues associated with pregnancy. Many people reported that they enjoyed the ability to live as they please and not being distracted from their life goals

However, there were many sources of information that discussed negative outcomes, such as compromised immune system, depressive symptoms and lower sexual satisfaction.

However, there is one symptom that was constantly used as a negative symptom that is actually quite neutral.

Losing the desire to have sex.

When it comes to the negative effects of abstaining they seem to be present in those would would like to have sex, but cannot (some form of sexual frustration ensuing, I assume). However, this one seems like it would be a great encouragement to those who desire to live a celibate life, but their body craves the opposite.

Either way, this is probably the only page That one may ever find that is dedicated to people who choose, for one reason or another, to remain abstinent. Sadly, it looks like no one has been active on the page for a while, but it is a well spring of information for those who desire to, or have a loved one who has decided to, live a celibate lifestyle.

Happy reading.

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Awkward Sex Series Part one: The “untouched” subject when discussing celibacy

There are countless articles talking about the health benefits of sex, masturbating and such the like. Go to any site for popular health magazines and they will often sit in the line-up for suggested articles.  There are many resources that talk about the benefits that sex has on the general well being of men and women alike, as well as how to get the most out of the experience. However, in order to find anything talking about the benefits of celibacy you like likely have to do a search on your own.

Its not that celibacy (chastity, abstinence, or just not having sex in general) in and of itself is untouched, but rather that it seems that many of those who write on  the subject are those who seem as if:

a.) they see no value in practicing celibacy

which seems related to a possibility that

b.) they see no reason for celibacy

which may give the appearance that

c.) they have not experienced (intentional) celibacy.

Again, I cannot say that everyone who have written an article against celibacy is sexually active, but it seems to be the case.

While looking for articles that discussed the benefits of abstaining, I found that there are may people who are against such a lifestyle. One person in particular seems as if he hated when anyone said that abstaining was easy. Another woman claimed that she felt unloved and unwanted by her husband who no longer wanted sex. It appears that sex and sexuality  seem to be so much of a norm in western culture, that most people could not imagine the possibility or not being sexually attracted to anyone (asexual).

In my personal experience, I have had statements ranging from “good for you” to “you guys just need to get it over with already” (coming from people who know my stance against fornication). With that in mind, it seems like those who desire to live a chaste lifestyle do not have very much support out in this fallen world (let alone being subjected by images and stories that tell them they need to get to poking for their health).

Until God hits the reset button.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized