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Awkward Sex Series Part Three: Asexuals get no love

One thing that does not get the recognition that it deserves is the freedom to be asexual. Many times this orientation gets lumped in to the LBGTQ community when it is really unrelated. Asexuality is when a person is not aroused by anything. Some people who choose to abstain are of this orientation, many of them have tried heterosexual and homosexual acts, but they don’t get anything out of it. they feel more comfortably after opting out of the sex game altogether rather than trying to force themselves into one orientation or another. some of the ones who say that Abstaining is easy may very well be of this orientation.

Stories of people who lose their desire to have sex, are filled with friends trying to set them up on dates and do things to “fix” them, as well as people assuming that they are homosexual. This shows that there may be some hostility towards those who do not fit in with society’s norm that we are all “sexually attracted to something.”  there are cases of people who are married and decide that they no longer want to have sex with their spouse. The “normal” thing to think is that the spouse who doesn’t desire sexual activity is evidently getting their sexual supply elsewhere, but who is to say that they weren’t sexually active based on societal or relational pressures.

One statistic that stood out to me is that is is reported that one percent or the population is asexual. Man times I have seen that same statistic for the homosexual population. This leads me to wonder how many homosexuals are Asexuals who were encouraged to believe that they had to be attracted to someone.

Til God hits the reset button

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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized


Awkward Sex Series Part Two: Effects of Celibacy

In the last post, I mentioned that there were not as many resources out there that talk about why abstaining from sex would be beneficial. but nonetheless they exist.

These include:

A lower likely hood of physical abuse, drug use, and excessive drinking and a higher likelihood of better mental health*. People who abstain also had a Lowered risk and instance of STIs, and lower risk of pregnancy (meaning lower risk of abortion, lower risk of body changes and body image issues associated with pregnancy. Many people reported that they enjoyed the ability to live as they please and not being distracted from their life goals

However, there were many sources of information that discussed negative outcomes, such as compromised immune system, depressive symptoms and lower sexual satisfaction.

However, there is one symptom that was constantly used as a negative symptom that is actually quite neutral.

Losing the desire to have sex.

When it comes to the negative effects of abstaining they seem to be present in those would would like to have sex, but cannot (some form of sexual frustration ensuing, I assume). However, this one seems like it would be a great encouragement to those who desire to live a celibate life, but their body craves the opposite.

Either way, this is probably the only page That one may ever find that is dedicated to people who choose, for one reason or another, to remain abstinent. Sadly, it looks like no one has been active on the page for a while, but it is a well spring of information for those who desire to, or have a loved one who has decided to, live a celibate lifestyle.

Happy reading.






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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized


Awkward Sex Series Part one: The “untouched” subject when discussing celibacy

There are countless articles talking about the health benefits of sex, masturbating and such the like. Go to any site for popular health magazines and they will often sit in the line-up for suggested articles.  There are many resources that talk about the benefits that sex has on the general well being of men and women alike, as well as how to get the most out of the experience. However, in order to find anything talking about the benefits of celibacy you like likely have to do a search on your own.

Its not that celibacy (chastity, abstinence, or just not having sex in general) in and of itself is untouched, but rather that it seems that many of those who write on  the subject are those who seem as if:

a.) they see no value in practicing celibacy

which seems related to a possibility that

b.) they see no reason for celibacy

which may give the appearance that

c.) they have not experienced (intentional) celibacy.

Again, I cannot say that everyone who have written an article against celibacy is sexually active, but it seems to be the case.

While looking for articles that discussed the benefits of abstaining, I found that there are may people who are against such a lifestyle. One person in particular seems as if he hated when anyone said that abstaining was easy. Another woman claimed that she felt unloved and unwanted by her husband who no longer wanted sex. It appears that sex and sexuality  seem to be so much of a norm in western culture, that most people could not imagine the possibility or not being sexually attracted to anyone (asexual).

In my personal experience, I have had statements ranging from “good for you” to “you guys just need to get it over with already” (coming from people who know my stance against fornication). With that in mind, it seems like those who desire to live a chaste lifestyle do not have very much support out in this fallen world (let alone being subjected by images and stories that tell them they need to get to poking for their health).

Until God hits the reset button.







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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized


Lmhqo. Its been over a year!

I have not posted on here in a minute, I haven’t even written anything that I just have sitting in draft either. But even with that, a lot has happened! (Praise God)

A romantic fling that I was having with an acquaintance is over. (Not sure how we are still friends at this point)

I made a coworker rage quit due to truth and a call to do the research. (Because safespace?)

I had to realize that I am a terrible person (but now I have hope in Jesus instead of thinking its a death ssentance; which is sad that I didn’t understand this before)

I found out that I was walking hard in the spirit of rebellion (and thought that I was being humble when I was doing it!)

But this would not have happened if I would not have listened to the unction to move…

…out of my parents house.

That is something that took a lot of prayer, fasting, patience and grace. Praise God for real.

I have learned so much more about the creator of the universe and His plan and desire for humanity then I would have while renting that house from them. Sometimes “come out from among them” and “be yet separate” has to apply to family, friends and people that you either like, or are otherwise accustomed to seeing. Stepping away from situations (or removing yourself from the equation in general) and being alone with God in his word helps a lot (understatement)

This makes me feel like sabbaticals are a must for people who don’t live alone. In fact,  its even biblical; Jesus would leave the crowd and go alone sometimes himself (if I am recalling correctly.)

So, yeah, take a break from this world and rest in God, your soul will thank you.

Lmhqo, by the way, is laugh my hind quarters off.

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Posted by on October 28, 2016 in Uncategorized


Missing ingredient

Okay, read this first.

Did you read it?


This makes so much more sense!

This view has helped me to understand parables and other parts of the New Testament a lot better (Yay, thank God!)

The thing is that, I believe, that the fact that the Holy Spirit can remove himself from you if you grieve Him too much is not taught enough! Now I am not saying that God is not merciful enough to be “longsuffering toward us,” or that there is no way that he is “not willing that any should perish,” nor am I saying that he doesn’t want all to “come to repentance.” 2 PETER 3:9. But as the writer of the article said, the role of the Holy Spirit in the life of a believer is what makes Blasphemy against him different from every other sin and blasphemy (the beyond forgiveness/repentance part).

This have given me a better understanding of John 3:16 (which most “churched people know by heart”)

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life”

There is one word that I believe that does not get the attention that it needs.


This word implies that a person that believes on the Son of God has a chance of perishing.

I was going to put a bunch of examples of different things but honestly, it doesn’t leave much room for questions or discussion. So I’ll tell you what: <— this is my email.

Send me an email and I will give you my phone number (please text before you call).

Hope to hear for you soon.

Heart me.

*Now before you get on me for using the king James version or accuse me of king James onlyism, I looked at about 50 versions of the Bible containing this verse. and about 30 of them said something to the degree of “should not perish” or “may not perish.”

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Posted by on July 21, 2015 in Uncategorized



Well, I went to credit school today and it reminded me of the title of this post. What is credit school you say? Credit School is what happens at my place of employment when you do not get the sufficient number of credit card applications during the month. You are required to attend or else you will get written up, which, from what I hear, is bad.

Now they hold credit school at 8:00 am on Saturdays because, for the general population, Saturday mornings are a day for sleeping in whether just to rest, or to recuperate from the night before. However, for me, it is almost more of an incentive not to get the applications.  You see, I like credit school; I like seeing coworkers from random departments come together because, well, its almost like being in school again. As for it being held on a Saturday morning, God touches me with His kindness and mercy before that time, so honestly, it gives me something to do for about 30 minutes to an hour once a month.

Now, do I believe that is it impossible to get all of the credit applications that I need in a month? Honestly, no. There are several people who average anywhere from 8 to 12 per month, one lady even would give her’s away until management said told her to stop. So with that, Why don’t I feel the need to get the credit apps? First of all, I do not like asking people if they have a credit card with us, because I usually say no when other stores ask, let alone someone telling me no. I am also a thrift store shopper, so spending 105 dollars on a dress that I can get for 99 cents because someone donated it, doesn’t make sense. Also, I got my first, and only, credit card when I was 25 only because I had no credit and I wanted to build credit in case I got married; otherwise, I wouldn’t have one in my possession. So with that, I don’t “believe in” credit cards, or credit card pandering, especially since there is no real consequence for it.

I didn’t realize it until I left, but we were sent an email with the manes of people who were not required to go to credit school. The thing that I noticed about said list is that the list or people who did not get their credit card applications was so large that it was that much easier to sent the list of those who were not required to attend. When I got into the class, I saw that there were a lot of people, I mean, some standing in the halls waiting for chairs to get sat down. There were new employees, there were old timers, there were probably even a few pacesetters (people who sell a lot) to in part, it made me feel a bit more comfortable. The issue is that the sight reminded me of the wide path of destruction.

You see, I don’t mind credit school because I like not having to ask every customer about credit cards; because at the end of the day, I am still employed. Just like the young adult doesn’t mind hangovers because they like being able to to party and escape into drunkenness; because at the end of the day, they can say they had a good time. Like the the woman who doesn’t mind having or risking getting STDs, because she likes the feeling of sex because at then end of the day, it was totally worth it. Like the husband who doesn’t mind having a disinterested wife, or curses on his children, because he enjoys sexual encounters with other women; because at the end of the day, he’s still been married for 30 years, with well behaved children. Now when I mention all of these people, please understand that I am not envisioning people of the world, not the case at all, I am imagining the one who is ushering at the door of the sanctuary, I am imagining the one who preached that wonderful sermon that you didn’t pay attention to last week, I am imagining the one who you drop of your children to every Sunday, and finally the one in the choir stand waiving their hand.

But lets say my place of employment decides to revamp the system and say that they will only keep those who consistently get applications, that would put me in a troubling situation. It would be like if the young adult got brain damage. It would be like if the woman’s body started breaking down because of her escapades. It would be like the husband’s wife and children behaving in public as he did in secret. Not fun.

Now, The Bible says in Philippians 2:15 that we are supposed to be “blameless and harmless” as well as “without rebuke” to the rest of the world, but from what I feel has been revealed to me, he is referring to spiritual things (see Philippians 2:14-16)

I guess the moral or the story is that we need to do better.

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Posted by on June 13, 2015 in Uncategorized


The Activist

A woman died and was facing judgment. She was an animal rights activist and a professed Christian. As she knew that her judgement would begin, she reflected fondly on her years of working at animal shelters, reporting animals in less than ideal living situations and adopting quite a few herself; she believed that she was going to get in based on those wonderful deeds. So she waited patiently and confidently until it was her turn.

When she was called into the judgment hall, she spent a good three earth years talking about her wonderful acts of activism, reporting dogs in locked cars, rescuing mothers from puppy mills and every heart warming story that she could ponder. After she was finished, The judge asked her:

“Have you confessed with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believed you your heart that God raised him from the dead?”


The judge repeated,”Have you confessed with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believed you your heart that God raised him from the dead?”

The woman pondered and said, “Um… yes I believe that I have”

“Good, good.” the judge said as he wrote. “Have you learned how to love?”

“Of course! why else would I have done what I did! I was a wonderful steward over God’s creation!”

“Did you learn how to love your brothers?”

“I didn’t have any brothers, just sisters”

The judge shook his head, sighed and said “Did you love your neighbor as yourself?”

“Oh! Well, to tell you the truth, I didn’t really like my neighbors, but yeah, I believe that I did”

“Would you have done the same thing for them that you would have done for the animals?”

She looked puzzled at the question, “What?… Why?”

“Would you have done the same thing for them that you would have done for the animals? Answer the question.”

“If I thought they needed it, then yeah, probably  I mean animals are helpless, humans are not.”

“Some humans are, as you define it, ‘helpless’ but it doesn’t mean that those that are not helpless do not need help.”

“I don’t see what that has to do with anything, I’m a good loving person”

“Yes, That is likely true, but only towards animals. According to the book, you walked this earth loving the things in creation, but hating the very image of God”

“How is that possible? I loved crosses and angels and stuff like that, I decorated with them all the time!”

“You didn’t love your brothers and sisters in the faith who were created in the image of God, and thus, it was impossible for you to love God.”

At that moment, all of the things in her life that she had done for the betterment of the life on animals were forgotten, and all of the things that she had done to the determent of her brother were recalled: the people she called evil, others that she discouraged. Even those who she knew were doing wrong towards others, but, because they shared the same affinity for animals, she refused to admonish them. She heard a few words and, at last, she felt the ground fall beneath her feet.

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Posted by on June 6, 2015 in Uncategorized